Theorem 1: Know thyself; That is; what your strengths are in writing; where it clicked with all cylinders; when it hit some marks where it fell flat on its face. Don't recopy the highs though. Dig deeper: why did it succeed.

Where you personally don't do well bring in those that do succeed on a regular basis in a variety of wrting mediums; if you can't hire them; consult them. Every expereince can be a learning one if arrogance and self-deception as well as selfishness is pushed aside to truly learn.

 

I read in a Buddhist book that anger is" equal parts  of arrogance and selfishness" Basically, the world is not giving you what you want in the way you want; a flow blockage of microcosm (you) to the macrocosm (life, the universe) In such times I personally back up and make the mantra of what is for the greater good for me, the party or parties involved and the future of all of us. The greater good goes much more beyond my desires and emo's and wishes, as well as possibly others.

You have to accept you may not get what you want at all, or part; it doesn't appease elements or come under influence of close relations or particular groups; it can't be limited.

This is the result of a "let's make a Deal" relationship... I'll love you IF you do this for me, or this person or this group. This is conditional control; and not free. A free relationship is neither a co-dependency,

or this. it is too complete people interdependent on each other; each strong in themselves; and agreeing to help each other.

 

The example, again from a Buddhist book basically explains the interdependent relationship as "buying a house and finding a untended garden in the back. Instead of pulling up everything and only planting what you want or waiting only a short time to see what grows and then either leaving it or pulling it up; you see what it actually is; some of will surprise you; some you stick with and some you try to get rid of.

 

And, well, i was a little concerned. When the honeymoon is over; (the book says)  you find let's say you love 80% of your SO and 20% you don't like.Some people begin to focus on that 20% and it begins subtlely; little notes and reminders; I love you and you're marvie but could/would you do this?After a while a person can feel this is a conditional love; if i do what he/she wants she will continue to love me.

This will breed resentment in time and rebelliousness as the one who is criticized feels they can't do anything to please their love. Sad

 

The "let's make a deal relationship" is a roller coaster ride of emo ups and downs until one SO gets off. It's power struggles all the time until it ends up crashing no non-repairsville.

 

Since the only real power is the power of change we have over ourselves; getting lost in constant seesaw of externals is futile. It's not "their" fault. He/ she does not make me angry; I feel angry and they reflect that. My words emotions, even body posture reveal my anger which triggers them.

 

I can always learn; I'm sorry Dawn and Mrs. I was angry. The important part is sharing the good me and I'm flattered truly you spread what i say at times even if you pass some ideas and  rebirth of phrases as your own. I'm flattered truly. You do me a  great honor, a great honor.

 

back to knowing oneself; if you do; then outside influences will not matter much thus will not lead you into making sometimes unsound judgements.

 

 Theorem 2:Know your family/team: or in other words: know your relationships: work, personal, professional. Know the influence each can have on your well-being and the decisions you make. Ask the why question of yourself and others. about decisions. Be willing to listen and learn from anyone at any time. Leave or check arrogance and selfishness. Be willing to say you are 100% responsible if something goes right and when it goes terribly wrong. No more blaming externals.

 

 Theorem 3: Know all of your audience: a real miss for BSG and sci-fi; they get all wrapped in ego and self-deception and they stop listening because it's safer and easier than 100% responsibility.

 

I'm not advocating either bowing completely to audience whim or the other extreme  of totally following what the ego decides, whether it's your own or your own in collusion with others. It's working to greater good of the project/ show/ book.

 

"What will make this a project from its begininng to end that will not get old or stale. What makes it eternal?

Did you know this of life, as we look back on our pasts; that we gravitate toward the high points first and low points with lessons second.

Constant shock will be buried; soon it will be like the old BSG TOS; I watched it, i enjoyed most of it but I can't remember the "why" I liked it. I think I like a character on it, etc.... which is micro but no resonates in macro or very few especially now. If BSG doesn't end strongly, it will not have the impact the whole series could have had in the annals of sci-fi history.

 

WE remember endings; and no completeknuckling under to fan groups or the "because I can"ego-boost will give you final shove to become a Sci-fi landmarks for the ages. "Lost" beats you in this category because of shear number of eps and imagination.

 

You want it; you gotta earn it. 

 

 

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