Pouring my Heart Out
okay christine, thanx for clearing stuff up…basically the man is a psychological bully…like crusader said, even if he is not physically abusive, making everyone feel low is just as bad, and you end up just as cowed as if he were hitting you, because you end up guarding your speech and actions out of fear just the same…it also sounds as though your mom is realistic about wanting to leave, but not necessarily live with you for the rest of your lives….money cannot buy peace of mind, so that should not be the issue as far as divorce/leaving the man…but you both must have a way to live…please, please please, find jobs for you both, and some sort of training for you so that you will never have to depend on anyone, or be scared to leave some ******* because you are afraid you won’t be able to support yourself…my father was/is extremely domineering, i have my own income and life and i stand him down when he is out of line with me or my mother…it makes for some uneasy times but we at least have come to terms…needless to say my adolescence was hell, but he himself was the one who pushed me to be able to support myself because he did not want me to have to stay with soomeone because i could not cut it on my own…so although you and your boyfriend wish to get married, remember it is always better to approach any relationship on equal footing rather than dependence…get some training/education that will lead to a better life for all of you, or for you alone if it comes to that…hope this helps and know that we all care…fx