Pouring my Heart Out
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Originally posted by Christine Carroll:
[b]Hi people! This doesn’t have anything at all to do with Sci-Fi… But I really need to get this off my chest and tell some one.
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oh christine, i am sorry about this mess and without really knowing what your long term plans are i am at a loss…i guess the first thing to do is figure out how realistically you and your mother can do on your own, and where would be the most realistic place to do it…if you guys are in an abusive relationship, you should just find jobs and leave, and then divorce dad. You also need to figure out how your boyfriend feels about taking on a full time relationship and a mother in law, maybe he is not ready for it. The main thing is for you and your mom to decide you want to leave, and then make carefully make plans to that end. You cannot necessarily rely on someone else to help you, nor can you make your mother’s decisions for her. You say you will be finishing school, but i am not sure if you mean college or high school. The job market and prospects for high school grads, especially one as bright as you, are very bleak. Maybe community college and part time work, with you and your mom sharing a place is more realistic. If you have finished college, find a job and a space of your own that if your mom wants, she can share. If your guy is committed, he will work with you towards achieving your goals. The main thing is to get out of an abusive relationship, and also to do the best you can for yourself, and your mom if she wants, for the longterm. Escape with no goal usually leads to nowhere. I don’t know if this helps, but trying to break things up into achievable tasks usually makes me feel less overwhelmed and desperate. Let me know how goes, love fx