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Originally posted by Xev of R2D2:
Geeze. How about “Thanks, X, for hooking us up with Ellen Dubin after she saw the wallpaper you did on your website.”?
I can only speak for myself, but when someone says that they’re leaving, I don’t really go to the trouble of complimenting the empty space where they once were. I mean, let’s say that I’m hosting a dinner party, and the guest (let’s say you, X) that brought the delicious Scalloped Potato dish leaves early. When the other guests depart, and say something to the effect of “Well, Aleck, that was a fine dinner party,” I’ll graciously say “thank you” as they put on their hats and coats and walk out. I probably won’t say “Well, thank X, even though he’s not here, because he brought the delicious Scalloped Potato dish.” It’s not a glory-hogging thing, it’s not a “let’s ignore X” thing, it’s an “X isn’t here, so complimenting him isn’t going to amount to much” thing. That’s what happens when you announce that you’re leaving a place. People tend not to pay the empty space much attention.
Just to cover my patinkin, let me add (as if it needed adding) that this should not be taken as a dig at you personally, X, just as a general statement. I never said thanks for passing along the contact info because (a) you never made a big deal about it and frankly I forgot that you passed the info along, and (b) you said that you weren’t going to be here, so it would be pointless for me to say something to you here.
You made it possible for other people to set this up, and for that I’m certainly grateful, but it’s like thanking the grocery store for the meal that gets cooked.
–Aleck
[ 13-11-2001: Message edited by: Aleck ]
[ 14-11-2001: Message edited by: FX ]